How do you help a child come out of their shell? Confidence is a funny thing that takes time to develop. It comes from a range of factors such as one’s self-esteem, skills, and experience. As their parent, there’s a lot that you can do to help. You can start by building their self-image so that they believe in themselves and are less fearful of the world around them. In this guide, we share top tips from an independent day school for parents.
Praise and Positive Reinforcement
Going back to the point made earlier on self-image. Children internalise the things that they hear, so it’s important that you provide lots of positive reinforcement and share kind words that will boost their confidence. Think about the things they are good at and verbalise them. That might be how fast they can put their toys away or do mental maths.
Skills and Experience
Skills and experience are another element of confidence. They give children reassurance that they are able to complete certain tasks. What you can do to help is introduce them to new and different situations where they can have a go themselves.
Criticism
Likewise, you should be mindful of how you deliver criticism. While it’s necessary for learning and improvement, the way it’s given can knock a child’s confidence. Avoid being over-critical and start off on a positive note with the things they did well.
Make Room for Mistakes
To follow on from the point above, it’s okay if things aren’t perfect the first time around (or the second, or third for that matter). They do a good job at preparing children for the future and create “freedom to fail” which makes children less fearful of their mistakes and in turn more confident.
The Example You Set
As well as the work you do with your child, think about how you can set a good example. Parents are role models to their children, and they pick up on their behaviours and attitudes.
This is a collaborative post.
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